The recovery process can be very fast or it can take years. To have it be fast, take the following steps:

Create a new life.

No matter what has happened in your past, your future is always a clean slate. Now, more than ever, you have the opportunity to create the life of your dreams.

The first step in creating your life is to find what you want. How do you want your life to be? What do you want to have? What do you want to do? Get clear on what you want. Then start taking the steps you need to have your dreams come true.

Be active.

As long as you are swimming, you'll stay above water, but as soon as you stop swimming, you'll start to sink. The same thing happens in life. As long as you are active and moving forward, you'll stay above water, but as soon as you withdraw, you'll start to sink.

The more you withdraw, the more life stops working. The more life stops working, the more you withdraw. You create a downward cycle that leads to depression and a very painful life. So don't withdraw. Be active.

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Look for and find the things in life that bring you joy. Then do them as often as you can. Create a life of fun and adventure.

Be willing to feel your hurt.

After a breakup, you are likely to experience waves of hurt. This isn't bad news, this is good news. This is true because every wave of hurt is an opportunity for a deeper healing. Whenever you feel sadness, that hurt is coming up to be released. If you allow the hurt, like a child, the hurt will come and go. If you fight the hurt, you'll push it back inside.

So allow yourself to feel your hurt. Whenever the hurt comes up, reach in and grab as much of it as you can. Let in the feelings of being worthless, not good enough or not worth loving. Cry if you can. Let the hurt come and let it go.

When you allow yourself to cry and to feel your hurt, you not only heal the hurt of the moment, but you also heal hurt from your past. You gain a little more peace of mind and life works a little better.

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