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Accept Your Full 100% Responsibility For Love
Once you discover your role in the problem, you get your power back. You can turn your situation around. When you can't see your role in the problem, you lose your power and you stay stuck. We've been taught that relationships are 50/50 but they're not. They are 100/100. Each person is 100% responsible for the presence or absence of love. In any relationship, each person is constantly reacting to the other. No matter how someone gets treated, that person will react accordingly. Notice what happens when someone accepts and appreciates you. You feel loved and automatically accept and appreciate that person in return. Now notice what happens when someone is judgmental and critical towards you. You get upset and become judgmental and critical in return. However you get treated, you will respond accordingly. This makes the other person 100% responsible for the presence or absence of love in your relationship. It makes you 0 % because no matter what the other person does, you are going to react quite naturally. At the same time, the other side of the coin is also true. How you treat the other person determines how that person will respond to you. This makes you 100% responsible and the other person 0 %. Each person in a relationship is constantly reacting to the other. At the same time, each person is constantly determining the other person's reaction. In other words, each person is 100% responsible for the presence or absence of love. Unfortunately, we seldom notice our 100%. We only notice how the other person treats us. We can easily see the other person's responsibility, but we can't see our own. When you can't see your 100%, you have no power. All you can do is react. You have no ability to determine what will happen. If you want a relationship to work, you need to accept your 100% responsibility for the presence of love. You need to make sure the other person feels loved, accepted and appreciated. When you are reacting, this becomes impossible. Watch Bill talk about what creates and destroys love.
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