The next step
You can divorce as friends and maybe save your marriage.
You can also create a wonderful life.
You can divorce as friends and maybe save your marriage. You can also create a wonderful life.
Whether you want to divorce as friends or save your marriage, you have to do the same thing. You need to end the conflict, heal the hurt, and restore the love, not as husband and wife, but as one human being to another. When you do this, everything else takes care of itself. If your relationship is a fit, you will come back together like magnets. If it’s not a fit, you will go your separate ways, but you will do it in a way that is loving and supportive.
This may seem impossible, but it’s not. You can do it, but it requires looking at your situation in a very different way. You have to heal your hurt and you need to develop some new skills.
Knowing the steps is not enough
The articles on this site walk you through the basic steps, but knowing the steps and taking them are two very different things. To be effective in handling your situation, you need more. There needs to be a healing and a change in how you relate to the other person. When you change how you relate to the person, you change how that person responds to you.
The first step in restoring your effectiveness is to heal the hurt. The automatic avoidance of this hurt makes you defensive and creates a state of fear, upset and tunnel vision. It destroys love and forces destructive behavior. Once you heal this hurt, the fear and upset lose power. Your restore your ability to see clearly and automatically shift your focus from resisting to solutions.
The next step is to clean the slate in you towards the other person. Let go of any blaming, resenting, and hanging on. Get to the place where you can interact out of the love instead of the fear and upset. When you act out of the love, you create more love. When you interact out of the fear and upset, you create more fear and upset.
Every time you interact with someone, you will either create love or destroy it and whatever you give will come right back. This is where you get your power. You can’t change the other person, but you can change how you relate to the person. When you do this, you change how that person responds to you. Sometimes the other person changes quickly. Sometimes it takes longer, but it always happens.
How to be most effective
To be most effective in handling your situation, work directly with Bill Ferguson. He can walk you through the process of healing your relationship and taking the steps you need to either divorce as friends or save your marriage. While working with Bill, you will gain a healing and a set of skills that you will use for the rest of your life.
If you want to change your life and do it quickly, attend our weekend workshop, Return To The Heart. This weekend is about restoring yourself. It’s about getting past the hurt and discovering the essence of who you are. Once this happens, your life will never be the same.
If you like to read, get the books, How To Heal A Painful Relationship and Get Your Power Back. The relationship book was featured on Oprah. If you want to learn how to handle your current situation and also create a great life, watch the Mastery of Life Video Course.
Are you having a difficult time?
Would you like to end the conflict, heal the hurt, and restore your inner peace? Would you like to heal your relationship? You can. The best way to do this is to work directly with Bill Ferguson. Give us a call. We can talk about your situation and create a plan of action.