Common core issues
Look over the following list of core issues to
find the hurt that runs your life
Look over the following list of common core issues. If possible, have someone read the words to you. Hearing an issue is more reactivating than reading one. Listen to each word as though it accurately describes you. Notice which words are the most painful. Also, pay particular attention to any characteristics that you deny having. You wouldn't need to deny a characteristic unless you were avoiding it.
While you are reviewing the list, remember that you are not looking for the truth. You are looking for an emotion. In other words, don’t look to see if this is true about you. It's not. Instead, notice how painful it would be if this were true about you. The more painful the words, or the more you want to deny them, the closer you are to the hurt. For most people, the bottom line hurt is worthless, no value.
Find the words that hurt the most
not worth loving
not worth respecting
have no value
have deficit value
not good enough
not good enough to be loved
don't measure up
can't cut it
don't have what it takes
something is wrong with you
can't do anything right
a horrible person
just like your parents
Notice that some of these words are painful and some aren't. Find the words that hurt the most.
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