Don't jump into a new relationship.

When a relationship ends, we often want to get into another relationship as fast as we can. We do this to avoid our hurt. Although this may bring some temporary relief, the avoidance of this hurt tends to create more suffering in the long run. This is true for several reasons.

First, the more eager you are to find a relationship, the less patience you'll have to find the person that's best for you. You are likely to end up in a relationship that doesn't support you. Second, the moment you step into another relationship, the hurt that you've been avoiding gets suppressed and the healing process stops.

The hurt that you've been experiencing is actually old hurt that's been reactivated. This hurt has been sabotaging you for years, and now it's in your face. Feeling this hurt can be very uncomfortable, but it's the best time for a major healing. Now that your hurt is on the surface, you can heal it.

Allow yourself to feel your hurt and put your focus on creating a life that you enjoy. As you do this, the hurt will lose power and soon disappear. You will then have more peace of mind and be in a much better position to find the relationship of your dreams.

Focus on the opportunity.

When you started your relationship, you certainly never planned for it to end, but this is what happened. Now you have a choice. You can either consider your new situation as an opportunity or as a predicament.

Whichever you choose is what you'll get. If you focus on the opportunity, life will open up and great things will happen. If you focus on the predicament, you'll get more suffering.

So focus on the opportunity. Look for what's possible and take the steps to have your dreams come true. There is nothing you can do about your past but there is a lot you can do about your future. Have your life be great.

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