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Learn To Let Go And Flow With Life - Continued
Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. It is responsible for all your fear and all your upsets. It is responsible for all your self-sabotaging behavior and ultimately, all of your suffering. In relationships, the avoidance of this hurt destroys the love, fuels the conflict and pushes people away. To learn how to heal this hurt, make sure you read the next two sections, Heal The Hurt and Find And Heal The Inner Issues That Run Your Life. The best way to find and heal this hurt is for Bill Ferguson to walk you through the healing process. See Telephone Consulting Sessions. The second best way is for you to do the Mastery Of Life Audio Course or attend his weekend workshop, Return To The Heart The audio set, How To Divorce As Friends, and the book, Get Your Power Back, also show how to find and heal this hurt. Both are available on audio cassettes and CDs. All our products can be downloaded. Download all the articles on this site. Example Ginger was so afraid of losing Paul that she tried to control his every move. Whenever she felt threatened, she would get angry and upset. Without knowing, Ginger was pushing Paul further and further away. She was afraid of losing Paul because if he left her, this would reactivate all her hurt of feeling not worth loving. To avoid this hurt, Ginger hung on. Once she realized this, Ginger started working with her hurt. She allowed herself to feel all the hurt of being not worth loving. As she did this, the loss of Paul ceased to be a threat. She became willing to lose him. She didn't want to lose him, but she was willing. The moment Ginger was willing to lose Paul, the fear and upset lost its power. She saw her situation clearly and saw what she needed to do. She met with Paul and apologized for hanging on. She told him to do whatever he needed to be happy, even if this meant his leaving her. She told him that she loved him and that she wanted him to stay, but that she was willing to lose him. Within a few days, Paul realized that it was safe to be around Ginger. He even enjoyed their time together. Soon, Paul felt so loved and able to be himself around Ginger that he didn't want to go anywhere. By being willing to lose Paul, Ginger was able to keep him.
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