The key to handling your situation is to end the cycle of conflict, heal the hurt and restore the love in your relationship - not necessarily as husband and wife, but as one human being to another.
Watch Bill talk about what creates and destroys love.
As you end the conflict and restore the love, nature takes its course. If your relationship is a fit, you will come back together like magnets. If it is not a fit, you will go your separate ways, but you will do it in a way that is loving and supportive.
Here are the steps:
1. Indentify the specific underlying condition that is destroying the love and sabotaging the relationship.
If you have any relationship that isn’t working, there will be an underlying condition of resisting or hanging that is destroying your ability to see clearly. It keeps you from finding solutions and it forces you to act in a way that actually makes your situation worse.
This condition destroys the experience of love and creates a cycle of conflict. Individuals get hurt and become defensive. Then they fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. Instead of creating a relationship that is supportive, they create one that is full of suffering.
The first step in healing a relationship is to discover the specific underlying condition that is creating the problem. You can do this by attending one of our evening workshops or by having an individual consulting session with Bill Ferguson.
2. Remove this underlying condition.
This underlying condition is created by the automatic, subconscious avoidance of a very specific hurt from the past. Whenever this hurt, or core issue, gets triggered, we feel threatened. We then fight, resist, hang on and withdraw.
Watch a video of Bill talking about core issues
To remove the condition that creates the destructive behavior, you need to find and heal this hurt. This can be done through individual consulting or by attending our weekend workshop, Return To The Heart.
To get the most results, have a consulting session with Bill Ferguson first. Then follow it up with Return To The Heart. If you can't do both, do the weekend workshop.
The weekend is important because you gain an awareness and a healing that permanently changes the way you live your life. The result is more love, more happiness, and a much more enjoyable life. It is physically impossible to live your life the same way after you Return To The Heart.
You can also walk through the healing process by downloading Bill's Core Issue Healing Video. If you prefer audio, get the Mastery of Life Audio Course.
3. Let go of any resentment, blaming, hanging on, and other destructive behavior.
The next step is to remove any remaining destructive behavior. This is relatively easy once you heal the hurt, but it still needs to be done.
You can do this in an individual session or in our Saturday workshop, Mastery Of Relationships SM. The Mastery of Life Audio Course is another great way to walk through the healing process.
The Mastery of Life Audio Course walks you through most of the steps that are covered in the sessions and most of the material from our workshops. It can be very life changing.
5. Find solutions that work for everyone.
The fourth step in the healing process is to resolve any disputes. The key to doing this is to look for and find solutions that work for everyone. It’s amazing how fast you can find solutions when you look for them.
If you are in the divorce process, resolving disputes becomes particularly important. Make sure you read the sections on resolving disputes and dealing with attorneys.
4. Create a plan of action.
After you have walked through the healing process, the next step is to create a plan of action. How do you interact with each other in the future and what steps do you need to take to have your life be great? Where do you go from here?
We are here to support you.
If you have any questions, give us a call. We can talk more about your situation and what needs to be done. If you want, we can work with you until this area of your life is handled.
We look forward to hearing from you.
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The Mastery of Life Audio Course
The Mastery of Life Audio Course is about learning, healing, taking action, and developing the skills you need to transform your life. You will walk through the process of finding and healing the inner core issues that destroy love and sabotage your life. You will learn, step by step, how to end conflict, heal hurt and restore love in all your relationships. Then you will learn how to create a life that will exceed your dreams.
Topics include creating and maintaining love, being free of your past, cleaning up your life, healing relationships, getting your power back, prosperity, life purpose, spirituality and more. This powerful course provides an awareness and a healing that will literally change your life.
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