It's not the truth that you are worthless or whatever, it's just a hurt. But it's a hurt that most people will do almost anything to avoid facing. It's the avoidance of this hurt that gives it power.

To heal this hurt and to be free inside, you need to do the opposite of fighting it. Find the specific hurt that you've been avoiding and make peace with it. Get to the place where you can say, "Yes, I'm worthless. So What? I'm also worthy." As you do this, the hurt loses power and disappears.

To start the healing process, find as specifically as possible, what the hurt is. The best way to do this is to look at your upsets.

Make a list of all the major upsets that you've had in your life. Then find the hurt that's under each one. Go back in time to the moment each upset began and ask yourself this question: "What do those circumstances say about me?"

If someone leaves you, this may say that you are not worth loving. If you lose your job, this may say that you are a failure. Find the words of "not okay" that hurt the most. The more painful the words or the more you want to deny them, the closer you are to your hurt. For most people, the bottom line hurt is worthless.

While you are looking for your hurt, don't look to see if you are this way, because you're not. Look to see if it would be painful if you were. The more painful this would be, the closer you are to your hurt.

As you work with your upsets you will discover that the same hurt keeps showing up in your life, over and over. This is the hurt that runs your life.

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After you find the specific hurt that you've been running from, the next step is to do the opposite of fighting it, which is to face it and then embrace it. Allow yourself to feel the hurt of being this way. Cry if you can. Then, while you are feeling this hurt, look over your life and see all the evidence to prove that this is indeed an aspect of you.

Find the evidence to prove that you are worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure or whatever else you've been avoiding.

Remember, this isn't true in reality. This is only true in the realm of thinking and emotion. But in this realm, worthless is very real, and this is the realm where the healing needs to take place. So put yourself in the hurt of feeling this way and look at your life and see all the evidence to prove that you really are this way.

The evidence will be there if you are willing to see it. It has to be. It wouldn't keep showing up in your life if it wasn't there. You don't have to like it. You just have to tell the truth about it. Let it in.

Worthless is part of you. It's also no big deal. You are also worthy. Worthless and worthy are both aspects of being human. So allow yourself to be human.

Allow yourself to feel all the hurt of being worthless, not good enough, a failure or whatever your issue is. Feel the hurt willingly like a child. Let it come and let it go.

The more you let in the fact that this is an aspect of you, the more impossible it is to run from it. When you can't run from it, you can't fight it. When you can't fight it, the issue loses power and disappears. It's just like the yellow balloons. If you stop fighting them and let them be there, they go away.

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