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FAQ About Divorce
Here are some frequently asked questions about divorce.
These questions cover some of the basic concerns people have about divorce. For more detailed infomation, read the various articles.
If you want a divorce, it's important to handle your situation in a way that doesn't make your situation worse. To the extent possible, make sure your spouse is a partner in the decision. State that the two of you have been suffering and that the suffering needs to end.
Do everything you can to make sure your spouse doesn’t feel invalidated or rejected. Tell your spouse that you love him or her and that divorce is not going to change your relationship. Your relationship is forever. It’s only going to change the form.
To divorce as friends, put your focus on ending the conflict, releasing the hurt, and healing your relationship, not necessarily as husband and wife, but as one human being to another.
As you do this, nature takes its course. If your relationship is a fit, you will come back together like magnets. If it's not a fit, you will go your separate ways, but you will be able to do it as friends. This site will walk you through the steps. Read the various sections and do what they say. The knowledge and the healing you gain can change your life. Click here to begin. Tell your spouse that the two of you have a serious problem in the marriage and that something needs to be done, one way or another. Tell him or her that the suffering can't continue. Get your spouse's agreement and ideas for what needs to be done. Then do everything you can to end the conflict and restore the love in your marriage. If nothing changes, tell your spouse that the two of you have tried everything and that problem continues. Tell your spouse that you want to live separately for a while. Don't blame your spouse. Blame the way the two of you interact with each other. Keep the focus on maintaining the love in your relationship, one human being to another. Make sure your spouse feels loved, accepted and appreciated. If your spouse fights the separation you may need to take a strong stand. Just make sure you do it with love. To learn more about how to handle your situation, read the book How To Heal A Painful Relationship and listen to How To Divorce As Friends.
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